Chester Bennington’s Depression has never been a secret. You’ve probably come here wondering, “why Chester Bennington kill himself”. A guy who seemingly had it all, right? Fame, fortune, and huge fan base. Well, when it comes to mental health, everyone has their two cents. From someone who’s battled depression their entire adult life (Read about that battle here), it’s frustrating. It’s frustrating because people speak about depression without listening, and give opinions without understanding. This last week, we lost Chester Bennington, the lead singer from Linkin Park to suicide. On Facebook, I read countless posts from people saying “OMG!! I can’t believe this happened!! I’m so sad!! Guys, mental health is sooooooooooo important!”… Did that really surprise anyone? We are talking about a guy who dedicated his life to singing lyrics like:
“Put me out of my fucking misery”
“I’m holding on
Why is everything so heavy?
So much more than I can carry
I keep dragging around what’s bringing me down
If I just let go, I’d be set free
Why is everything so heavy?”
“I tried so hard
And got so far
But in the End
It doesn’t even matter”
Chester Bennington’s Depression: Was his suicide really that surprising?
Chester Bennington killed himself because the reality is, depression doesn’t discriminate. He may have had fortune, fans, a family, and musical career, but depression messes with the way you see reality. You can be fine for a second and then feel like the biggest burden in the world the next. As a matter of fact, Chester Bennington’s wife mentioned that he seemed completely FINE just days before killing himself.
For people to be so shocked when someone’s career has been a cry for help… this is the problem. How many more people do we have to lose to suicide before we start listening? After they’ve died it’s too late. We tell people, “I’m here for you. Please call if you need anything”, but calls still get sent to voicemail. Because the uncomfortable truth is that depression is heavy, it’s ugly, and it doesn’t feel good to be around. Some think they are strong enough to be there for someone who is truly depressed when really, they’re not.
Here’s the fundamental problem with people’s views on depression, suicidal ideation, and mental health…
When we read bleak statuses on Facebook, the assumption is gosh they’re so negative, or they’re weak, or how dramatic. Do you know what it’s like to want to kill yourself? To feel like you are a literal inconvenience to everyone around you? How much pain do you think a person has to be in to feel like they NEED to leave everyone? Think about how shit you have to feel to take the time to set up a noose and hang yourself? That’s not an impulse decision, that is premeditated thought.
Some people think that suicide is cowardly and selfish, but when you’re in that mindset you truly believe that the world would be better without you. And it’s a freaking shame. Because the world lost such a bright light that made other people with depression feel heard and understood.
Depression comes in many forms, and some are not as blatant as the lyrics listed above. We need to learn to listen before it’s too late. We need to be having continual conversations about mental health, not just posting a sad status when someone has committed suicide.
Be a part of the change, not a part of the problem. Learn how to see the signs and save someone’s life here.
Updated: September 2019